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For millions of people in society, sex addiction has been an ongoing & rampaging issue. However, many have been helped through the 12 Steps of the recovery program, both the addict and their spouse, and it can help you as well. In this video, licensed psychologist and national author, Dr. Doug Weiss, discusses Step Five which is about having admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
In Step Four you did an inventory of all the good, bad, and ugly from your life. Now, with Step Five, it’s time to do something with that list. Make sure you commit and set time apart to do so.
First is admitting to God the different columns of your list, acknowledging Him as a person in this process. He loves you and holds nothing against you. He wants to have a relationship with you. Even in the midst of what you went through, God was there, even providing opportunities to help you.
Second is admitting to ourselves. You can just read the inventory outloud or face an empty chair and talk about these things with yourself and respond back as well. It may be difficult but it can lead to you adulting up, taking responsibility, and moving to a different place with you for the better.
The last part is to admit to another human. Make sure you do this with a safe trusted person, like a counselor, pastor, sponsor, etc (of the same gender though). Telling someone who gets what you’re trying to get done, helps break the lie that if someone really knew you they wouldn’t love you.
Make sure you don’t delay this step. Step 5 can be the biggest joy because it gets rid of shame since you admit and confess the wrongs and ugly things that you have dealt with in your life. You may have done bad things but you longer feel like you are bad. You are able to feel loved and better trust others, to live free.
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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.